How To Be A Better Parent
Being a parent is one of the toughest but most rewarding jobs on the planet — although you may feel unprepared for the situation. The first step towards being a better parent is to take care of ourselves better. Unless we know how to manage our emotions, there is no way our children will be able to do so.
There is no one perfect formula or principle that suits all parents as every child has different needs. You are dealing with complex human beings who are still learning and unfolding to the new world. Therefore, you need to be patient and empathetic. Here are some tips to help you become a better parent while understanding and growing with your kids.
Celebrate your child
Appreciating your child’s good work is fine but make sure you celebrate your child.” By doing so, you teach your child that the good deed is a part of their identity. The next time your kid has to decide without you around, they can think about who they are rather than what they did and make the right choice.
Lead your child by example
Children tend to mimic their parents’ actions at a young age. They take in everything you do and mimic it. As a result, how you react to different situations can influence how they react to their situations. Make sure that you set an example of positive attitude and behaviour that you wish to see in your kids.
Allow kids to learn from their mistakes
As a child, they are bound to make mistakes. Allowing your child to make mistakes is one of the best ways to teach them that actions have consequences. It can also serve as an excellent point of reference for future lessons. In addition, praise is best connected to who your child is, while mistakes are best treated as temporary setbacks that open the door to future success. That way, your kids aren’t labelled clumsy just for spilling the juice. Instead, they are tagged as responsible for cleaning up their mess.
Kids should be taught values and not rules. We hear so much about the importance of parents instilling good values in their children; failing to do so may lead to indisciplined or aggressive kids. Therefore, parents need to know their values to communicate and express them to children effectively.
You may encourage your child’s creativity in activities such as painting, dancing, singing, playing a sport, etc… This gives you a glimpse of your child’s perspectives of the world while allowing them to show and share their emotions. Be supportive and show them that you are always there no matter how things turn out. For example, rather than simply calling it a great painting, you may want to ask your kid to tell you more about the painting. Your genuine interest in their work will build confidence and motivate them to perform at their best.
You don’t have to force yourself and your kids to live up to anyone’s expectations. As a parent, it is common to hear plenty of parenting advice, but make sure you don’t get trapped by these. Follow your instincts regarding your family and feel confident about yourself and your parenting abilities.
The best gift we can ever give our children is our time and love. Spend time with your child as it is important for you to show them how much you love them. Be it reading a good story, baking some delicious cookies, shopping for kids clothing or taking them to the nearest park. This strengthens bonds and enables your child to face any challenges in life knowing that someone loves them unconditionally and cares about their well-being.